Yes, Andrew said it. He came to give me a hug goodnight. This is only something that has started to happen in the last few months. I would have to push it to get them before that. He didn't have a great day homeschooling today. He did some of the work, but quit when he realized that the assignments that would have been fun on the day we did them as a group were now just writing assignments since he chose to pee himself and not participate on that day. He had to sit out of all the fun activities of the evening as a result. (I'll post about the great evening later, since I had started, but had to quit when this all happened just now.)
He had his shower after watching everyone's elses fun tonight. He is headed to bed. He had his belly full of hamburger and chips, but didn't have the chocolate or fun stuff. He smelled good for a change, which I immediately noticed since he often smells of urine from where he pees himself so often. It seems at times that even a shower with triple washes doesn't make him smell good, but tonight he did.
He gave me a REAL hug. (Those have become more often lately) I told him that it was a good hug and that I liked that kind. He giggled just a little. I said, "So what are you thinking about?" and Andrew said "That I really should be a better person.". Wow is all that came to mind! I said "I love you just the way you are. I do wish you could make better choices for you though." I told him that I loved him alot and he said "I know". I said "So how do you know?". Andrew replied "I don't know how, but I know you do.". THAT IS HUGE! I told him that I do a whole lot. I gave him more hugs and told him to sleep good.
That was the end. There wasn't a hint of 'ok I said what you would always want to hear so now give me my priveleges back'. I have to say that I am going to go to bed with a very thankful heart. I type this with some tears in my eyes that even if it doesn't happen again for a long time, that was what my heart desires with him. Mutual love and Connection!