I know that sounds funny, but it is true. I hear people in "adoption groups" all the time and meet other adoptive parents who are so "sure" of what "type of child" they want to adopt that they can't get matched. I've had people complain to us that we "always" get matched easily. I have to explain that we stick in homestudies on alot of kids and then wait for God to match us with whichever child/children He has planned for us.
See no one seems to be wanting to adopt children who have "special needs". They don't want kids with "quirks" so to speak. I know that I personally would not meet their "criteria" for their idea of the "pefect child". They have strange criteria. They often expect more of their potential adoptive child than a parent who is giving birth has control of most certainly. I just don't think it is fair to expect more of a child that you are adopting than you would of a child who you would give birth to anyway. I mean, any of us could give birth to a child who develops autism, has a heart defect, is hearing impaired, blind, or a variety of other "special needs". Why then are people so "picky" in adoption?
I've had people say to me that if it was "your own child then you would just learn to deal with it and figure it out because you love them". Well crapola! Every child that you adopt is "your own child"! Why shouldn't we as a world just love them and learn to deal with their special needs because they are children of God that if He should choose to bless us with the opportunity to parent then they are immediately "ours"?
I guess the whole topic kind of ticks me off. I just don't understand why skin color (eye color or any other color for that matter), autism, cleft palate, Down Syndrome, or differences in ability determine a child's worth in our society. I know I am a different kind of person who isn't "normal" in my way of thinking, but the love of children and the acknowledgement of the gift of God that they are just doesn't seem like such a hard thing for me to expect of others.
I just think that if the adoptive parents who are out there waiting for the "perfect child" to come along were to think about it, then they would realize that they wouldn't even adopt themselves. So sad really when so many children are waiting. Children are all gifts from God!